Russ Harris: Mastering Acceptance and Commitment Therapy on The One You Feed
You can do positive thinking courses and learn to think more positively, but it's not going to stop negative thoughts from showing up...It takes conscious, consistent and creative effort to make a life worth living.
What if the key to a happier life lies in accepting even your toughest feelings? In this episode of 'The One You Feed', host Eric Zimmer chats with Russ Harris, a medical practitioner and psychotherapist who’s a leading expert in acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). Harris, known for his best-selling books like 'The Happiness Trap' and 'ACT Made Simple', brings a wealth of knowledge to the table.
Together, they explore the wolf parable that inspired the podcast’s name, discussing how to get the good and bad wolves within us to cooperate rather than clash. Harris breaks down the essence of ACT, emphasizing the importance of psychological flexibility. He shares practical techniques for separating from negative thoughts, like cognitive defusion and mindfulness practices.
By asking ourselves questions like, 'Is this thought useful?', we can create distance from our thoughts and see them for what they are—just thoughts, not facts. The conversation also touches on 'The Reality Slap' and 'The Reality Gap', concepts that describe the painful collision between our expectations and reality. Harris provides actionable advice on how to navigate these challenging moments by acknowledging our feelings instead of pushing them away.
He introduces the idea of the 'observing self', a part of us that can step back and watch our thoughts and emotions without getting entangled in them. Harris doesn’t just stop at theory; he offers real-world tips for living a fulfilling life. He stresses the importance of knowing our values and taking committed action based on them.
Whether it’s setting achievable goals or breaking down tasks into manageable steps, Harris’s insights are geared towards helping us create a life worth living. If you’re looking for ways to embrace your difficult feelings, distance yourself from negative thoughts, and take meaningful action, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to gain practical wisdom on feeding your good wolf and living more fully.