Five Relationship Killers You Need to Avoid
Episode Overview
Alcohol and substance abuse can lead to erratic behaviour and erode trust. Unresolved childhood trauma can negatively impact adult relationships. Hormonal imbalances during menopause can cause mood swings and conflicts. Saying everything you think can harm relationships; focus on positive communication. Device addiction can intrude on personal time; set boundaries with technology.
The brain is a sneaky organ. We all have weird, crazy, stupid, sexual, violent thoughts that nobody should ever hear.
Ever wondered why some relationships seem to fall apart despite the best intentions? In this episode of The Brain Warrior's Way Podcast, Dr. Daniel Amen and Tana Amen dive into five major relationship killers that are often linked to alcohol, bad habits, and brain health issues. They discuss how alcohol and substance abuse can lead to erratic behaviour, erode trust, and bring out impulsive thoughts that should remain unspoken.
Tana shares her experiences as a trauma nurse, highlighting how 'reserve' plays a crucial role in handling life's stresses, including those caused by alcohol. The duo also explores the impact of untreated childhood trauma on adult relationships, explaining that unresolved issues from the past can cast long shadows over your present connections.
Hormones get their fair share of attention too, with Tana shedding light on how hormonal imbalances during menopause can affect a woman's mood, libido, and overall behaviour, often leading to misunderstandings and conflicts in relationships. Dr. Amen emphasises the importance of knowing your health numbers, including hormone levels, to maintain a balanced life. The episode doesn't shy away from discussing the pitfalls of saying everything you think. Dr.
Amen points out that the brain is a 'sneaky organ', and alcohol can lower your inhibitions, making you say things you'd regret later. They introduce the concept of the 'One Page Miracle'—a strategy to focus on what you truly want in your relationships, work, and personal life. Lastly, they tackle the issue of device addiction. With smartphones becoming an integral part of our lives, it's easy to let them intrude on personal time.
Tana's humorous yet poignant anecdote about calling her husband's phone 'the mistress' serves as a reminder to set boundaries with technology. This episode is packed with practical advice and real-life examples that can help you identify and address the hidden saboteurs in your relationships. Tune in to learn how you can fortify your connections and lead a happier, healthier life.