The Hidden Self-Hate Driving Narcissistic Abuse: A Path to Healing
The narcissist needs their victim to hate themselves. They need the victim to essentially become the true self. The victim essentially is becoming this true self and then, by outsourcing it, it's almost like taking that whole damaged inner true self and pushing it outward.
Narcissistic abusers might seem self-assured and domineering, but beneath that facade lies a deep well of self-hate. In this episode of the Narcissism Recovery Podcast, Yitz Epstein uncovers how early childhood injuries can lead to profound self-loathing in narcissists. This internalized shame and weakness often manifest as abusive behaviors towards others. Victims, in their desperate attempt to appease the abuser, end up absorbing these toxic emotions, becoming emotional dumping grounds.
Yitz explains that understanding the root cause of narcissistic abuse is crucial for healing. The negative feelings victims carry are not theirs; they belong to the abuser. By recognizing this, victims can start to set boundaries and seek the help they need through coaching or therapy. Yitz offers practical advice on breaking free from the cycle of abuse and reclaiming self-love and respect.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone trying to understand the complexities of narcissistic behavior and looking for ways to heal from its damaging effects. Whether you're a victim of narcissistic abuse or supporting someone who is, Yitz's compassionate insights provide a roadmap to recovery.