Terry O.'s Journey: From Dysfunctional Family to Healing
Episode Overview
Growing up in a dysfunctional family can have long-lasting effects on mental health. Recognising patterns of abuse is crucial for healing. Therapy can help uncover deep-seated trauma and aid in recovery. Community support plays a significant role in personal growth. Building self-esteem and financial stability are key steps in the healing process.
I realised that my husband was treating me the way that my parents treated me and that he was scapegoating me
Welcome to another episode of Shitshow Saturday on the Adult Child podcast. This week, Andrea chats with Terry O., who shares his raw and honest journey of growing up in a dysfunctional family. From a rural spot in France, Terry opens up about his tumultuous childhood, marked by frequent relocations and an emotionally abusive father. He dives into the impact of these experiences on his mental health and the slow, painful process of healing from complex trauma (CPTSD) and codependency.
Terry talks about his struggles with identifying as an 'adult child' and how it took him years to realise the extent of his trauma. He recounts the pivotal moment in marriage counselling when a therapist recommended Bessel van der Kolk's book, 'The Body Keeps the Score', which became a turning point in his understanding of himself. This revelation led him to explore deeper into his past and recognise the roles his parents played in his emotional neglect and abuse.
In a heartfelt discussion, Terry reflects on the therapeutic process and how it helped him unravel the layers of his trauma. He shares his experiences with different therapists, including one who introduced him to inner child work, and how this has shaped his ongoing recovery. Terry also touches on the importance of community, particularly the support he's found within the SHITSHOW community, which has been instrumental in his healing journey.
Andrea and Terry's conversation is filled with moments of vulnerability and strength, offering hope to those grappling with similar issues. They discuss the challenges of building self-esteem, creating financial stability, and finding a sense of belonging after years of feeling disconnected. Terry's story is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the power of shared experiences in the path to recovery.
If you're looking for an inspiring tale of personal growth and healing, this episode is a must-listen. Terry's candidness and Andrea's empathetic hosting make for a compelling and relatable discussion that will resonate with anyone on their own journey to recovery.