Embracing Imperfection: Dr Tal Ben Shahar on the Real Path to Happiness
One of the major obstacles to becoming happier is the belief that life can and ought to be free of painful emotions.
Ever wondered why chasing perfection often leaves us feeling empty? In this episode of 'How to Be Sad', Helen Russell sits down with Dr Tal Ben Shahar, a psychologist and bestselling author who once taught Harvard's most popular course on Positive Psychology. But don't let his accolades fool you—Dr Shahar is here to talk about why it's okay to feel sad and how embracing all our emotions can actually lead to a happier life.
From his own journey as an elite squash player whose career didn’t go as planned, to his insights on the pitfalls of perfectionism, Dr Shahar shares his wisdom with a refreshing honesty. He challenges the notion that life should be devoid of pain and introduces the concept of 'wholebeing'—a balanced approach to living that includes the good, the bad, and everything in between. He also dives into cultural philosophies like ubuntu and kintsugi, offering a broader perspective on emotional wellbeing.
Whether you're grappling with toxic positivity or struggling in your relationships, this episode provides practical advice and heartfelt stories that remind us it's okay to not be okay. So, if you're looking for a candid conversation that tackles the myth of perfectionism and celebrates the full spectrum of human emotions, this episode is a must-listen.