Why We Over-Explain: Healing from Narcissistic Trauma
Episode Overview
Narcissistic abuse and its impact on survivor's behaviours The role of protector parts and over-explaining Understanding internal family systems and somatic healing Transitioning from survival to thriving Expert insights and support for survivors
Over-explaining for me was something that just was natural to me, that if someone asked me a question or if I couldn't do something, let's say somebody asked me out for a coffee and I was feeling such in a freeze response because of the narcissist, I'd got no energy. In a moment, I might say yes, but as that time grew closer, I knew I simply didn't have the energy to do that because I saw people as dangerous, even if I thought that they were my friends, because there was a potential that something bad could happen.
Ever find yourself justifying every little thing you do? Caroline Strawson knows exactly how that feels. In this episode of 'The Narcissistic Abuse & Trauma Recovery Podcast', she dives into why over-explaining is more than just a bad habit—it's a trauma response. Caroline shares her personal struggles with this behavior, revealing how it stems from the need to feel safe and avoid disappointment.
She explains how our bodies create 'protector parts' to shield us from the pain inflicted by narcissistic abuse. These parts often manifest as over-explaining, making situations worse rather than better. Caroline takes you through the science behind this behavior, drawing on techniques like Internal Family Systems and somatic healing. She breaks down how understanding these mechanisms can help you move from merely surviving to truly thriving. This episode isn't just about recognizing the problem; it's about finding real, actionable solutions.
Caroline offers practical advice on how to feel comfortable in your responses and stop digging yourself into deeper holes. If you're tired of feeling like you have to justify your every move, this episode is a must-listen. Caroline's empathetic approach and expert insights provide a roadmap to reclaiming your voice and confidence. Tune in to discover how you can transform your trauma responses into strengths and start living a more empowered life.