Clare Pooley: Breaking the Stigma Around Sobriety
When you make yourself really vulnerable, people are generally really kind, and also, when you tell all your darkest secrets yourself, nobody has anything they can level at you, because you've already done it.
Ever felt the weight of shame around your drinking habits? In this episode of 'Tribe Sober', Janet sits down with Clare Pooley, the inspiring author of 'The Sober Diaries' and a TED speaker, to tackle this very issue. Clare, who has been sober for seven years, shares her deeply personal journey from social drinking to consuming a bottle of wine every evening. Her turning point came one morning when she found herself drinking red wine to cure a hangover.
From that moment, she decided to turn her life around, and writing became her lifeline. Clare's anonymous blog became a sanctuary where she poured out her heart daily for three years, eventually reaching thousands of women who felt alone in their struggles. In this heartfelt conversation, Clare talks about the anger she feels towards the societal shame surrounding drinking. She emphasizes that alcohol is the only drug people feel compelled to justify not using.
This frustration led her to deliver a powerful TED talk on the subject. Throughout the episode, Clare offers practical strategies that helped her stay sober, such as indulging in hot baths, enjoying hot chocolate, and finding solace in cleaning and reading. She also highlights the importance of creating a vision board for motivation and making alcohol-free cooking enjoyable. Clare and Janet discuss the societal pressures to drink and how finding self-respect and self-love in sobriety can be a game-changer.
One of Clare's standout quotes from the episode is, 'When you make yourself really vulnerable, people are generally really kind, and also, when you tell all your darkest secrets yourself, nobody has anything they can level at you, because you've already done it'. This episode is a must-listen for anyone feeling isolated in their journey to sobriety and looking for practical tips and heartfelt support.