Surviving High-Conflict Divorce: Tips from Been There Got Out
We have to learn how to operate within that system...people go in thinking: I'm just going to tell the truth, my lawyer is going to support me, it's going to cost me a few thousand dollars to go through this process, happily, ever after, and it just doesn't work like that.
Ever feel like you're losing your mind in the midst of a high-conflict divorce? You're not alone. In this episode of The Narcissistic Abuse & Trauma Recovery Podcast, Caroline Strawson chats with Chris Barry and Lisa Johnson, the dynamic duo behind Been There Got Out. Both seasoned veterans of the courtroom and high-conflict divorce coaches, Chris and Lisa share their hard-earned wisdom to help you stay grounded during one of life's most challenging ordeals.
Lisa, a certified domestic violence advocate, and Chris, a tech-savvy high-conflict divorce coach, have faced their own grueling divorces, spending over $400,000 in legal battles. Their personal experiences have fueled their mission to guide others through the maze of high-conflict relationships, custody disputes, and co-parenting nightmares. In this eye-opening episode, they pull back the curtain on the court system, revealing how it can sometimes worsen post-separation abuse.
They also highlight lesser-known resources beyond just hiring lawyers that can make a world of difference. Whether it's drafting a robust parenting plan or anticipating the other party's moves, Chris and Lisa provide actionable strategies to prepare you for the long haul. One of the standout moments is when Lisa emphasizes the importance of building a strong support network and educating yourself before diving into the legal fray.
She points out that many people underestimate the length and complexity of high-conflict divorces, thinking they'll be quick and straightforward. Spoiler alert: they rarely are. Chris and Lisa also share their experiences representing themselves in court, offering tips to stay calm and focused during emotionally charged proceedings. They stress understanding the limitations of the legal system and learning how to work within its constraints to achieve the best possible outcome.
If you're navigating a high-conflict divorce or know someone who is, this episode is packed with practical advice and heartfelt support. Tune in to gain valuable insights that could make all the difference in your journey.