Understanding Guilt and Shame: Tools for a Healthier Mindset
Our moral code allows us to feel bad at the appropriate time. However, some people grew up in terrible families where the parenting style was about blame and shame, and so they develop what's called toxic shame.
Guilt and shame – two emotions that often travel together, but how well do we really understand them? In this eye-opening episode of 'Tales from the Office', seasoned therapist Jeff Brandler breaks down the nuances between healthy and unhealthy forms of these powerful feelings. Have you ever wondered why some guilt motivates you to make amends, while other times it just drags you down?
Jeff explores this distinction and dives into how toxic shame, often rooted in our upbringing, can lead to self-loathing and destructive behaviors. He doesn’t just leave you with the problem, though. Jeff offers practical strategies to help untangle these emotions from your past and present, encouraging you to recognize your positive traits and seek support.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone grappling with these heavy emotions, providing a roadmap to move from a place of pain to one of healing. Whether you're struggling yourself or supporting someone who is, Jeff’s insights offer a blend of empathy and actionable advice that can truly make a difference.