Setting Boundaries Without Guilt: Adriana Bucci's Guide to Self-Care
It doesn't mean you are a monstrous, horrible person. It's okay if you word it not nicely either.
Feeling guilty after setting a boundary? You're not alone, and it doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. In this episode of The Shiftshow, Adriana Bucci tackles the common yet challenging emotions that arise when you set boundaries, especially with toxic or narcissistic individuals. Adriana reassures listeners that feeling guilty is a normal human response, reflecting your empathy and consideration for others' feelings.
However, she also emphasizes that a negative reaction from the other person is a clear sign that the boundary was necessary and overdue. Adriana dives into why setting boundaries is crucial for your mental health and well-being. She highlights that healthy people will respect your boundaries, while toxic individuals will resist them, making it easier to identify who should stay in your life and who should go.
This episode is particularly enlightening for those who grew up with narcissistic parents, as Adriana explains how childhood experiences shape our ability to set boundaries as adults. Journaling is one of the tools Adriana recommends for managing guilt and understanding your emotional patterns. By writing freely, you can explore your feelings and gain insights into your thought processes, helping you unlearn harmful patterns from the past. Adriana also warns against becoming obsessed with the healing process itself.
While it's essential to work on yourself, she advises focusing on practical steps and achievable goals to move forward. If you're grappling with guilt after setting boundaries, this episode offers valuable advice and emotional support. Tune in to learn how to protect your well-being and create healthier relationships.