Breaking Down Shame: A Narrative Therapy Approach with Mauricio Yabar
The problem is not the person, the problem is the problem. Attempts to solve our problems often end up destroying our sense of identity, our personal power, and our agency. Dismantling shame is central to a good mood.
Imagine feeling trapped by shame and stigma, unable to shake off the stories society tells about you. In this episode of The Good Mood Podcast, Dr. Talia Marcheggiani sits down with Mauricio Yabar, a narrative sex therapist, to tackle these heavy topics head-on. Yabar, who is also a PhD candidate, brings a fresh perspective on how narrative therapy can dismantle the shame and stigma that often surround our identities and relationships.
He stresses the importance of seeing problems as separate from the person, echoing the famous words of Michael White, 'The person is not the problem, the problem is the problem'. The conversation dives into how single stories can trap us in a cycle of self-blame and disempowerment. Yabar shares his insights on how cultural and societal influences shape our perceptions of sex and relationships, often leading to issues like sex addiction and compulsive behaviors.
By questioning these dominant narratives, we can reclaim our personal power and agency. Dr. Marcheggiani and Yabar also explore the use of metaphors in therapy, illustrating how storytelling can be a powerful tool for change. They discuss the uncertainties and unknowns in therapy, emphasizing the need for empathy and genuine connection. Yabar reflects on his training programs and how they have shaped his approach to mental health.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling with shame or looking to understand the deeper psychological impacts of societal narratives. It's not just about therapy; it's about reclaiming your story and your sense of self.