Fixing Your Broken Picker: Healing Codependent Relationships with Andrea and Kendra Allen
We had to get sober by cutting it out completely, and so that's why I'm like a huge advocate of the no contact rule and just cutting completely out.
Ever felt like you're stuck in a cycle of unhealthy relationships? In this episode of the 'Adult Child' podcast, Andrea opens up about her first codependent relationship and how it shaped her future connections. She’s joined by Kendra Allen, better known as Your Break Up Bestie, who dives into her own journey of repairing her 'broken picker'. Both Andrea and Kendra share their raw, personal stories, shedding light on how early experiences can set the stage for adult relationships.
They explore complex trauma, generational pain, and the lingering effects of growing up in a dysfunctional family. Kendra discusses her past toxic relationships, including an abusive one with a narcissist, and how she eventually learned to love herself. She emphasizes the importance of the no-contact rule and making a checklist of what a healthy relationship should look like. Andrea reflects on her own struggles with self-worth and how her path to sobriety helped her break free from toxic patterns.
Together, they offer insights on recognizing and breaking these cycles, stressing that it's never too late to heal and find self-love. This episode is a heartfelt conversation that offers hope and practical advice for anyone looking to transform their relationships and start loving themselves.