Navigating BPD in Polyamory and Monogamy: Insights from A.J. Mahari
When there is a person with untreated BPD in any relationship, the dynamics at core collapse from the relational efforts of the person with BPD, regardless of relationship types.
Have you ever wondered how Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) affects relationships, whether monogamous or polyamorous? In this episode of 'Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups', counselor and trauma recovery coach A.J. Mahari dives into the complexities of relationships involving someone with untreated BPD. Mahari, with over 30 years of experience, shares her expertise on why these relationships often face significant challenges.
She explains that the emotional instability and relational dynamics of untreated BPD can cause relationships to crumble, regardless of whether they are monogamous or polyamorous. Polyamorous relationships, in particular, demand a high level of emotional, mental, and physical energy from all involved. Mahari sheds light on the added complexities these relationships face when one partner has untreated BPD. She also discusses the importance of understanding codependency and jealousy in both hierarchical and non-hierarchical polyamorous setups.
Mahari emphasizes the necessity of educating oneself about polyamory and non-monogamy before diving in, especially when mental health issues like BPD are in play. Her insights are not just theoretical; they are grounded in real-life scenarios and practical advice. If you're grappling with the challenges of a relationship involving BPD, whether it's monogamous or polyamorous, this episode offers valuable perspectives and strategies for navigating these turbulent waters.
Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the emotional landscape and to find ways to foster healthier relationships.