Counsellor A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari
BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing?
BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing?
BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing?
Sunday 25th August 2024
AJ Mahari explores the hidden dynamics behind idealisation and love bombing in BPD and NPD relationships, offering insights for healing and recovery.
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Healing Relationships
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
Navigating Challenges in Recovery
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Episode Overview
- BPD and NPD relationships often involve a false self created by trauma.
- Individuals with BPD/NPD cannot genuinely self-reflect due to a lack of true self.
- Idealisation and love bombing are part of a cycle of emotional highs and lows.
- Breaking free from trauma bonds is crucial for personal recovery.
- Focusing on one's own healing journey is essential rather than trying to change the partner.
They don’t have a self to reflect upon; it’s all a false self created by trauma.
Ever wondered who the real person is behind the idealisation and love bombing in relationships with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or BPD with traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)? This episode of 'Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups' with AJ Mahari dives deep into the complex dynamics of these relationships.
AJ, a seasoned counsellor and trauma recovery coach, unpacks the layers of behaviour and emotional turmoil that come with these relationships, explaining why it often feels like there’s no ‘real person’ behind the facade – just a false self created by trauma and adverse childhood experiences. AJ addresses common misconceptions about BPD and NPD, such as the belief that individuals with these disorders can self-reflect and understand their own behaviours.
She clarifies that the lack of a true self makes genuine self-reflection impossible, leading to repeated cycles of idealisation, devaluation, and projection. The episode also touches on the importance of recognising these patterns early on and the necessity for those affected to seek their own healing journey rather than focusing on changing their partner. With a mix of personal anecdotes and professional insights, AJ offers a compassionate yet realistic perspective on why these relationships are often doomed from the start.
She emphasises the need for those with codependency to break free from trauma bonds and focus on their own recovery. This episode is a must-listen for anyone entangled in or recovering from a relationship with someone who has BPD or NPD traits. Ready to gain clarity and take steps towards your own healing? Tune in to understand the complexities and start your journey to recovery today.