Counsellor A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari
BPD Discard Codependent Fantasy Pissing Into The Wind of Cognitive Dissonance
BPD Discard Codependent Fantasy Pissing Into The Wind of Cognitive Dissonance
BPD Discard Codependent Fantasy Pissing Into The Wind of Cognitive Dissonance
Thursday 3rd October 2024
A.J. Mahari tackles BPD breakups, codependent fantasies, and cognitive dissonance, offering practical advice for healing and moving forward.
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Healing Relationships
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
Navigating Challenges in Recovery
Navigating Alcohol Dependency
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Episode Overview
- BPD discards fuel codependent fantasies.
- Cognitive dissonance traps you in unhealthy cycles.
- Focus on self-healing rather than fixing the relationship.
- Recognise the signs of codependency.
- Practical advice from 35 years of experience.
"You don't go outside on a windy day and pee into the wind and consider that you've taken a shower"
Ever felt like you're just pissing into the wind, hoping for a different outcome in a relationship that keeps letting you down? A.J. Mahari dives deep into the painful and confusing experience of breaking up with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). In this episode, she tackles the harsh realities of BPD discards and codependent fantasies.
Mahari uses a mix of personal anecdotes, listener comments, and professional expertise to illustrate how these tumultuous relationships can leave you stuck in cognitive dissonance. If you’ve ever found yourself caught between your head and your heart, this episode is for you. A.J. responds to a commenter who’s struggling with the fantasy of getting back with their ex, despite repeated letdowns. She points out how cognitive dissonance keeps people trapped in unhealthy cycles, mistaking toxic dynamics for love.
Mahari also highlights the importance of recognising codependency and taking steps towards healing rather than clinging to a damaging relationship. Mahari's 35 years of experience as a counsellor and trauma recovery coach shine through as she offers practical advice and compassionate support. She stresses that true recovery involves focusing on yourself, not the fantasy of fixing or saving someone else.
This episode is a must-listen if you're trying to make sense of a breakup with someone who has BPD or if you’re caught in a cycle of emotional turmoil. Don't let yourself be stuck in a never-ending loop of heartbreak. Tune in to gain valuable insights and find out why healing starts with you.