Letting Go of 'Should' and 'Must': A Path to Healthier Relationships
This should or must way of thinking is incredibly, incredibly destructive, and it destroys loved ones around us.
Ever catch yourself thinking, 'I should have done this' or 'They must do that'? These words might seem harmless, but they can wreak havoc on your mental well-being and relationships. In this episode of the 'Care In Counseling Podcast', Rev. Robert Wilson, a clinical psychotherapist, breaks down the eighth cognitive distortion: 'should' and 'must' thinking.
These critical words often stem from unrealistic expectations and a desire to control others, leading to guilt, frustration, and anger when things don't go as planned. Wilson dives into how these thought patterns can trap us in a cycle of negativity, making it hard to accept reality as it is. Instead of clinging to these harmful expectations, Wilson suggests embracing acceptance and focusing on problem-solving.
By letting go of the 'shoulds' and 'musts', we can foster healthier relationships and a more positive outlook on life. This episode offers practical advice and heartfelt encouragement for anyone struggling with these cognitive distortions, providing a roadmap for personal growth and emotional freedom.