Kelley Kitley on Trauma, Recovery, and Advocacy: A Personal Journey
If we are only treating symptoms of what's happening to us over time- and many of us are encouraged to do that- like if you have an eating disorder, let's fix just your eating disorder, and that's what I love about our profession.
Ever wondered how childhood environments shape our relationship with alcohol? In this episode of the SoberSoul Recovery podcast, Lynn Matti sits down with Kelley Kitley, a psychotherapist, author, and speaker known for her expertise in women's mental health. Kelley shares her poignant story of growing up above her parents' bar in Chicago, where drinking was as common as breathing. But it wasn’t until later in life that she recognized how trauma had intertwined with her addiction.
Kelley's journey is both heartbreaking and inspiring. She recounts how learning about appropriate versus inappropriate touch in school made her realize the abuse she suffered from a family friend was far from normal. This revelation led her to use alcohol as a coping mechanism to numb the pain and manage her PTSD symptoms. Despite her professional background as a social worker, Kelley struggled with the stereotype of what someone with a drinking problem looks like, which delayed her seeking help.
In their conversation, Lynn and Kelley dive deep into the importance of addressing the root causes of addiction rather than just its symptoms. Kelley advocates for a holistic approach to treatment that considers the entire person, not just the addiction. She emphasizes that many people are often encouraged to treat only the specific addiction, like an eating disorder, without addressing underlying trauma. The episode also sheds light on how society normalizes drinking and substance abuse, especially among women.
Kelley and Lynn discuss the critical need for advocacy and open conversations about addiction and mental health to break down stigma and foster understanding. They highlight the significance of finding a supportive community during recovery, which can make all the difference. Tune in to hear Kelley's candid reflections and gain valuable insights into the complex relationship between trauma and addiction.
Whether you're on your own recovery journey or supporting someone else, this episode offers a compassionate perspective that underscores the importance of holistic healing.