Allison K. Dagney
Allison K. Dagney
You Can't Love People Harder Into Loving You
You Can't Love People Harder Into Loving You
You Can't Love People Harder Into Loving You
Tuesday 7th January 2025
Allison K. Dagney explores why over-giving and codependency won't make someone love you more. Learn to prioritise self-love and set healthy boundaries.
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Allison K. Dagney
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Recovery from Trauma
Healing from Sexual Trauma
Healing Relationships
Mindful Recovery
Understanding Addiction & Recovery
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Episode Overview
- Over-giving in relationships can leave you feeling drained and unappreciated.
- Codependency ties your self-worth to others' approval.
- Over-loving can become smothering or create resentment.
- Prioritising self-love and setting boundaries are crucial.
- Affirm your worth based on your values.
Pouring love into somebody else's empty bucket is not going to fill yours
In this episode of The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast, Allison K. Dagney tackles the misconception that loving someone harder will make them love you back. With her unique blend of empathy and expertise, Allison explores the pitfalls of over-giving, codependency, and the emotional toll of trying to earn love. She shares personal anecdotes and relatable stories that highlight why this approach often leaves you feeling drained and unappreciated. Allison explains that love should flow naturally and not be transactional.
She dives into the concept of codependency, where one's self-worth is tied to others' approval, and how this can stem from childhood wounds or past traumas. Through real-life examples, Allison demonstrates how over-loving can sometimes become smothering or create resentment in the other person. She encourages listeners to reflect on their motives for over-giving and to start prioritising self-love and boundaries.
The episode offers actionable steps, including journaling about times you tried to earn love, setting boundaries, and affirming your worth based on your values. By focusing on self-love, Allison believes that the right kind of love will naturally flow to you. This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling with codependency or feeling unappreciated in their relationships.