Supporting Loved Ones with BPD: Paula Tusiani-Eng’s Journey
As hard as it is, just if you love them and you want them to get through this and survive, don't give up on your loved one.
Paula Tusiani-Eng’s life took a drastic turn when her sister was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD). After multiple hospitalizations and months of self-harm and suicidal thoughts, Paula's sister found some stability through treatment. Tragically, one of her medications caused a rare stroke, leading to her death in 2001. This heartbreaking experience ignited Paula's passion for advocacy and support for those affected by BPD.
She co-founded Emotions Matter, an organization dedicated to supporting, educating, and advocating for people impacted by BPD. In this episode of 'It's All In Your Head', Paula shares the emotional journey of supporting her sister through her struggles with mental health. She delves into the challenges faced by families dealing with BPD, including the difficulty in finding trained providers and the emotional toll it takes on loved ones.
Paula’s story is not just one of loss but also of resilience and hope. Her dedication to breaking the stigma surrounding BPD and providing resources for those affected is truly inspiring. Emotions Matter offers a wealth of resources for those impacted by BPD, including publications, videos, and programs developed by individuals with lived experience. The organization focuses on helping people find appropriate treatment and supporting recovery through emotional regulation and coping mechanisms.
Paula emphasizes the importance of family support in the treatment and recovery process, highlighting that recovery principles for BPD include building a sense of agency, trusting oneself, and engaging in social activities. Paula's journey and the mission of Emotions Matter offer hope and practical advice for anyone dealing with BPD, whether directly or as a supporter. This episode underscores the critical need for advocacy and support in navigating the complexities of BPD.
If you or someone you know is struggling with BPD, Paula's story is a poignant reminder to trust your instincts and never give up. Tune in to hear her powerful message and learn how you can be part of breaking the stigma and supporting those affected by BPD.