Marigny Goodyear on Navigating Consent and Healing from Sexual Trauma
"We all have some degree of fantasy in our brain about who we want or expect that other person to be. And sometimes, in the absence of getting information that clarifies that, we will go on believing what we want to believe, and that can lead to some miscommunication, people being hurt or used or confused."
Imagine writing a letter to the people who took advantage of you during your most vulnerable years. That's exactly what Marigny Goodyear did. In this powerful episode of 'Mental Illness Happy Hour', host Paul Gilmartin sits down with Marigny, a 42-year-old mother, to discuss the intricate and often misunderstood issues surrounding consent, trauma, and the complicated dance between sex and love.
Marigny bravely reads her open letter addressed to the men who exploited her as a young teen, bringing to light the gray areas that many struggle to articulate. They dive deep into topics like alcohol's role in consent, the emotional turmoil of trading sex for attention, and the crushing fear of abandonment. But it’s not all about the past; Marigny also shares her journey toward healing and self-love, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and embracing emotional vulnerability.
She poignantly states, 'You can't change what happened to you, but you can decide whether or not you are worth putting in the effort to heal.' This episode offers a raw and honest look at the complexities of sexual trauma and consent, making it an essential listen for anyone seeking to understand these challenging issues better.