The Magnetic Pull Between Narcissists and Codependents: A Deeper Look
Your system is like danger, danger, danger, and you go into all this array of protector parts to try and stop you feeling what your core wound was.
Why do narcissists and codependents seem to find each other like magnets? In this episode of 'The Narcissistic Abuse & Trauma Recovery Podcast', Caroline Strawson unpacks the fascinating dynamics that draw these two personality types together. With her extensive background as a trauma therapist and coach, Caroline explains how childhood wounds play a pivotal role in these relationships. Both narcissists and codependents often share similar feelings of worthlessness, feeling unseen or unheard from a young age.
This episode dives into how these early emotional scars lead to behaviors that make them a 'match made in heaven'—or perhaps more accurately, in hell. Caroline sheds light on how codependents often fall into patterns of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and over-giving to feel worthy and lovable. On the flip side, narcissists develop protective behaviors like addiction and perfectionism to mask their deep-seated insecurities.
While narcissists are unlikely to change due to their unwillingness to face their core wounds, Caroline offers hope and practical tools for codependents. Techniques such as Internal Family Systems, Brainspotting, and Somatic Experiencing are discussed as ways for codependents to heal their emotional wounds and break free from the cycle of attracting narcissists. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for anyone dealing with the aftermath of a relationship with a narcissist.
Caroline's empathetic approach provides not just understanding but actionable steps towards healing and reclaiming your life. Whether you're trying to make sense of a toxic relationship or seeking ways to protect yourself from future harm, this episode offers valuable guidance and support.