Whitney Goodman on Toxic Positivity: Embracing All Emotions
We tell people that they need to be grateful in their deepest moments of struggle as a way to kind of pull them out of that pain, but in reality they're left feeling worse that shame arises that you've mentioned before.
When life gets tough, being told to 'stay positive' can sometimes feel like a slap in the face. In this episode of 'How to be Sad', Helen Russell sits down with Whitney Goodman, the straight-talking psychotherapist behind the popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit and author of 'Toxic Positivity'. Whitney pulls no punches as she discusses how the relentless pursuit of positivity can actually harm our mental health.
She describes toxic positivity as a form of gaslighting that shuts down genuine emotional experiences, making us feel ashamed or even numb. Helen and Whitney dive into why simply 'looking on the bright side' isn't always the best approach, especially in a world filled with real struggles. They touch on the physical toll of suppressing emotions, the damaging effects of 'manifesting' and affirmations when they don't work, and the concept of radical acceptance.
Whitney also shares her insights on emotional regulation and body neutrality, offering practical advice on how to accept our bodies without attaching any particular feelings to them. This conversation is a refreshing reminder that it's okay to feel all the feels—good, bad, and everything in between. Tune in for an eye-opening discussion that encourages embracing the full spectrum of human emotions.