Supporting Loved Ones in Addiction: Balancing Help and Self-Care
Episode Overview
Prioritise self-care to effectively support others. Use 'pious' communication: positive statements, 'I' statements, active listening, and shared responsibility. Understand that you can't change others; they must choose to change themselves. Set clear boundaries to protect your well-being. Utilise tools from CBT and Smart Recovery to maintain motivation.
You can't help anyone until you help yourself first.
How do you help a loved one struggling with addiction without losing yourself in the process? That's the heart of this episode of the Red Roof Recovery Show. Tanya McIntyre, along with her husband Lance, dive into the challenging dynamics of supporting someone battling addiction. With over three decades of shared life experience, they offer a mix of personal stories and practical advice that resonates deeply.
Tanya, drawing from her background in cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and Smart Recovery, emphasises the importance of self-care using the airplane analogy: you can't help others unless you help yourself first. The couple also explores the concept of 'pious' communication – a strategy to improve conversations with loved ones by focusing on positive statements, using 'I' statements, listening actively, and sharing responsibility. They share their own struggles and triumphs, making the advice relatable and actionable.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone trying to support a loved one through addiction while maintaining their own well-being. If you've ever felt torn between helping someone and taking care of yourself, this episode offers valuable insights and practical tools. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion that balances empathy with real-world advice.