Relapse: Understanding and Moving Beyond the Blame Game
You did not create addiction or substance use disorders. You do not cause someone else's drinking or using, you cannot control someone else's drinking or using and you cannot cure it.
What if someone told you that a loved one's relapse isn't your fault? In this episode of Grace Through Recovery, Andrea Williams, LPC, CPCS, dives into this often misunderstood aspect of addiction. Drawing from the book One Day at a Time in Al-anon, Andrea sheds light on why blaming yourself for someone else's relapse is not only unhelpful but also inaccurate. Addiction affects the entire family, and understanding this dynamic is key to moving forward.
Andrea explores the concept of the Three C's: you didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you can't cure it. These principles serve as a foundation for letting go of guilt and focusing on self-care. Andrea also offers practical tips for coping when relapse happens, emphasizing the importance of compassion towards yourself. This episode is a must-listen for anyone grappling with the emotional toll of a loved one's addiction.
Whether you're new to recovery or have been on this journey for a while, Andrea's insights will help you find peace and resilience.