Using CRAFT with Distant Loved Ones: Rekindling Connection and Trust
We have to respect the dignity of their process, the dignity of our process and the dignity of their process, and that's how you are able to step away even just a little bit and let them start to tumble, start to reform themselves a little bit in reaction to what's going on around them.
When a loved one is struggling with substance use and lives far away or isn't in touch, it can feel like you're navigating a maze in the dark. This episode of 'Coming Up for Air' sheds light on how to apply the CRAFT (Community Reinforcement and Family Training) method even when physical distance or minimal contact makes it challenging.
The hosts, with their deep understanding and personal experiences, guide listeners through the process of rekindling communication and rebuilding trust from afar. They tackle the tricky dynamics of 'chasing' and 'avoiding' that often characterize such relationships, offering practical tips to shift from a 'threatening position' to a 'connecting position'. One memorable example shared is the simple yet effective idea of sending cat photos and using emojis to break the ice and foster a softer, more trusting relationship.
The episode emphasizes the importance of respecting both your process and your loved one's process, creating space for self-discovery and growth. By the end of this episode, you'll have a better grasp of how to navigate these complex emotions and maintain hope, even when miles apart.