Disarming the 4 Horsemen: Building Healthier Relationships
Episode Overview
Identify and disarm the '4 Horsemen' of relationships: criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt. Use 'I' statements and express positive needs to improve communication. Build a culture of appreciation to counteract contempt. Take responsibility for your actions to reduce defensiveness. Practice self-soothing techniques to manage stress and avoid stonewalling.
The coolest thing about John Gottman is that he studied what makes marriages work, not just what makes them fall apart
Relationships can be a minefield, but in this episode of the Addict II Athlete Podcast, Coach Blu Robinson and Marissa tackle John Gottman's concept of the '4 Horsemen' that often spell disaster for relationships: criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt. With their combined expertise in mental health and addiction counselling, they offer practical advice on how to recognise and disarm these destructive behaviours. They share real-world examples and strategies for fostering positive communication and mutual respect.
Whether you're looking to improve your marriage, work relationships, or friendships, this episode is packed with actionable tips to help you build stronger connections. Coach Blu and Marissa's candid discussions make complex psychological concepts easy to understand and apply in everyday life. Tune in to find out how small changes can lead to significant improvements in your relationships. Don't miss out on this valuable resource for anyone seeking healthier, happier connections.