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Lisa R – What are some examples of amends we can’t or shouldn’t make?
Lisa R – What are some examples of amends we can’t or shouldn’t make?
Lisa R – What are some examples of amends we can’t or shouldn’t make?
Sunday 15th September 2024
Lisa R discusses when to make amends and when to hold back in recovery, focusing on safety, motives, and spiritual growth.
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Episode Overview
- Stand tall when making amends; don't grovel.
- Prioritise personal safety over making amends.
- Avoid causing harm with new information.
- Seek guidance from a sponsor for making amends.
- Spiritual intentions can bring peace when direct amends aren't possible.
Even if there are amends I cannot or should not make, what matters is would I be willing to make them if it were possible or reasonable?
In this episode of SoberQ, Lisa R tackles the challenging topic of making amends in recovery. She dives into Step Eight of the 12-step programme, focusing on the delicate balance of when to make amends and when it might be better to hold back. Lisa shares a poignant quote from the Big Book, reminding us that while making amends, we should stand tall and not grovel.
This episode is filled with practical advice and personal anecdotes that make it both relatable and insightful. For instance, Lisa explains that personal safety should never be compromised when making amends. If a situation could be physically or emotionally unsafe, it's okay to step back. She also touches on the importance of not harming others with new information they might not be ready for.
Lisa emphasises the crucial role of a sponsor in guiding these decisions, sharing her own experiences where her sponsor helped her recognise when her motives for making amends were not entirely selfless. The episode also explores the emotional complexities of making amends to those who have passed away, offering alternative ways to find peace and closure.
Lisa's heartfelt story about her grandmother adds a deeply personal touch, showing that even if direct amends aren't possible, spiritual intentions can still bring healing. The episode concludes with a powerful reminder that willingness is key – being ready to make amends, even if it's not always feasible, signifies spiritual growth. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the tricky waters of making amends in their recovery journey.