Facing Unfixable Wrongs: Anne W. on Step Eight
Episode Overview
Seek guidance from a sponsor to navigate Step Eight. Balance between avoiding difficult issues and over-focusing on past mistakes. Consider indirect amends when direct restitution isn't possible. Examine past actions to understand emotional harm and personal growth. Use insights from 12 and 12 literature for deeper self-reflection.
It's equally necessary that we extricate from an examination of our personal relations every bit of information about ourselves and our fundamental difficulties that we can
What do you do about wrongs you can never right? Anne W. tackles this challenging question in this episode of SoberQ, focusing on Step Eight of the recovery process. Anne shares her personal journey, highlighting the importance of having a sponsor to guide you through the delicate balance between avoiding difficult issues and over-focusing on past mistakes. She candidly discusses her struggles with critical perfectionism and the need for mature, responsible behaviour moving forward.
Anne emphasises the value of seeking advice from a sponsor to determine whether an amends is truly impossible or if it's just uncomfortable. She explores the concept of indirect amends—changing future behaviour to prevent repeating past mistakes. Drawing from the 12 and 12 literature, Anne underscores the significance of thoroughly examining one's past actions and their impact on others, even when direct restitution isn't possible.
This episode isn't just about making amends; it's about understanding the emotional harm we've done to ourselves and how it influences our recovery journey. Anne's reflections reveal that recognising these deep-seated emotional conflicts can lead to profound personal growth and a better understanding of one's character. If you're grappling with unresolved wrongs in your recovery journey, Anne's insights offer practical advice and heartfelt encouragement.
Tune in to discover how examining your past can shed light on your present and pave the way for a healthier future.