Apologizing can be tough, but it’s a crucial skill for mending relationships and fostering personal growth. In this episode of 'We Heal Together', Cordelia dives into the nuances of making heartfelt apologies. If you've ever found yourself fumbling for the right words or unsure how to convey genuine remorse, this episode is your guide. Cordelia breaks down twenty practical tips to help you apologize effectively.

From starting with a simple 'I'm sorry' to ensuring your apology isn't just a way to end an argument, these insights are designed to make your apologies more meaningful. She emphasizes the importance of sincerity and reflecting on your actions, helping you understand the impact of your behavior on others. This episode is perfect for anyone looking to improve their relationships and personal accountability.

Whether you're navigating a breakup, dealing with family conflicts, or just aiming to be a better friend, Cordelia's advice offers a roadmap to better apologies and, ultimately, better connections.

Cordelia shares twenty practical tips for making sincere and effective apologies in this episode of 'We Heal Together'.

Mastering the Art of Apologies: Cordelia's Expert Tips

Podcast Info<ul><li>A new podcast episode drops every Monday.</li><li>Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.</li><li>Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking <a href="https://www.cordeliahealtogether.com/who-is-cordelia">here</a></li><li>Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/codependentrecovery/">@codependentrecovery</a></li><li>Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey <a href="https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfXSNLYwAeWRweVJPnKy3jxS6xhbE-wN_pVXAMq1K1iLpmJag/viewform">here</a>.</li></ul>--------- WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES<ul><li>Want access to free resources? Click <a href="https://www.cordeliahealtogether.com/free-resources">here</a></li><li>Need help finding a therapist? Click <a href="https://drive.google.com/file/d/10yUktC6xdgeQhC4IdgsScGEoDNV1e7b5/view?usp=sharing" target="_blank">here</a></li><li>Check out Cordelia's book recommendations <a href="https://bookshop.org/shop/wehealtogether" target="_blank">here</a><ul><li>Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.</li></ul></li><li>Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  <a href="https://www.cordeliahealtogether.com/buytheworkbook">Here </a>is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.</li><li>Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click <a href="https://www.cordeliahealtogether.com/community" target="_blank">here</a></li><li>Interested in any other affiliate links? Click <a href="https://www.cordeliahealtogether.com/affiliate-links" target="_blank">here</a><ul><li>Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.</li></ul></li></ul>-------- CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE<ol><li>The apology is not the only time to talk about <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Why-Wont-You-Apologize-Betrayals/dp/1501129619/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3O3ZYZKW7DGQD&dchild=1&keywords=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t+you+apologize&qid=1607514099&sprefix=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t%2Cstripbooks%2C157&sr=8-2">[Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]</a></li><li><a href="https://guilfordjournals.com/doi/pdf/10.1521/jscp.23.4.532.40309" target="_blank">Only apologize if you mean it</a></li><li>Say it once <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Why-Wont-You-Apologize-Betrayals/dp/1501129619/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3O3ZYZKW7DGQD&dchild=1&keywords=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t+you+apologize&qid=1607514099&sprefix=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t%2Cstripbooks%2C157&sr=8-2">[Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]</a></li><li>Keep it short <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Why-Wont-You-Apologize-Betrayals/dp/1501129619/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3O3ZYZKW7DGQD&dchild=1&keywords=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t+you+apologize&qid=1607514099&sprefix=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t%2Cstripbooks%2C157&sr=8-2">[Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]</a></li><li>Don’t use it as a device to shut someone up <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Why-Wont-You-Apologize-Betrayals/dp/1501129619/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3O3ZYZKW7DGQD&dchild=1&keywords=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t+you+apologize&qid=1607514099&sprefix=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t%2Cstripbooks%2C157&sr=8-2">[Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD] </a>or <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/friendship-20/201906/how-apologize-8-tips-keep-in-mind" target="_blank">to get what you want</a></li><li>Don't overdo or make it over the top <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Why-Wont-You-Apologize-Betrayals/dp/1501129619/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3O3ZYZKW7DGQD&dchild=1&keywords=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t+you+apologize&qid=1607514099&sprefix=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t%2Cstripbooks%2C157&sr=8-2">[Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD]</a></li><li><a href="An apology is about more than words—it is also about body language, tone of voice, etc" target="_blank">Watch your body language</a></li><li><a href="https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/how-to-apologize.htm#:~:text=An%20apology%20is%20a%20statement%20of%20remorse%20that%20you%20make,Admit%20responsibility.">Start it with I’m sorry or I apologize (Mindtools)</a></li><li><a href="https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/how-to-apologize.htm#:~:text=An%20apology%20is%20a%20statement%20of%20remorse%20that%20you%20make,Admit%20responsibility.">Spell out the mistake (Mindtools)</a></li><li><a href="https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/how-to-apologize.htm#:~:text=An%20apology%20is%20a%20statement%20of%20remorse%20that%20you%20make,Admit%20responsibility.">Be sincere and authentic (Mindtools)</a></li><li><a href="https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/how-to-apologize.htm#:~:text=An%20apology%20is%20a%20statement%20of%20remorse%20that%20you%20make,Admit%20responsibility.">Don’t make excuses (Mindtools)</a></li><li>Own your impact</li><li>Say what you should have done</li><li><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/friendship-20/201906/how-apologize-8-tips-keep-in-mind" target="_blank">Listen to the other person</a></li><li><a href="https://www.wnyc.org/story/so-sorry/">Don’t demand forgiveness</a></li><li><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-dance-connection/201409/the-9-rules-true-apologies" target="_blank">Keep the focus on your actions—and not on the other person’s response</a></li><li><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-dance-connection/201409/the-9-rules-true-apologies" target="_blank">Don't get caught up on who started on it or who is to blame</a></li><li><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-dance-connection/201409/the-9-rules-true-apologies" target="_blank">State your future plans to make amends</a></li><li><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-dance-connection/201409/the-9-rules-true-apologies" target="_blank">Do your best to not repeat the behavior</a></li><li><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-dance-connection/201409/the-9-rules-true-apologies" target="_blank">Don’t expect things to go back to normal immediately</a></li></ol>BONUS TIP: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Why-Wont-You-Apologize-Betrayals/dp/1501129619/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3O3ZYZKW7DGQD&dchild=1&keywords=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t+you+apologize&qid=1607514099&sprefix=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t%2Cstripbooks%2C157&sr=8-2">Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD</a>--BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS<ul><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Why-Wont-You-Apologize-Betrayals/dp/1501129619/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3O3ZYZKW7DGQD&dchild=1&keywords=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t+you+apologize&qid=1607514099&sprefix=harriet+lerner+why+won%27t%2Cstripbooks%2C157&sr=8-2">Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner, PhD</a></li></ul>

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Apologizing can be tough, but it’s a crucial skill for mending relationships and fostering personal growth. In this episode of 'We Heal Together', Cordelia dives into the nuances of making heartfelt apologies. If you've ever found yourself fumbling for the right words or unsure how to convey genuine remorse, this episode is your guide. Cordelia breaks down twenty practical tips to help you apologize effectively.From starting with a simple 'I'm sorry' to ensuring your apology isn't just a way to end an argument, these insights are designed to make your apologies more meaningful. She emphasizes the importance of sincerity and reflecting on your actions, helping you understand the impact of your behavior on others. This episode is perfect for anyone looking to improve their relationships and personal accountability.Whether you're navigating a breakup, dealing with family conflicts, or just aiming to be a better friend, Cordelia's advice offers a roadmap to better apologies and, ultimately, better connections.

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Let's Talk about Apologies: Part 2.

Let's Talk about Apologies: Part 2.

Let's Talk about Apologies: Part 2.

Monday 21st December 2020

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Mastering the Art of Apologies: Cordelia's Expert Tips