Embracing Imperfection: Nadia Bolz-Weber on Grief, Sexuality, and Spirituality
My suffering is almost always a result of what story I'm telling myself about what's going on, not because of what's going on.
What happens when a Lutheran pastor redefines what it means to be a Christian woman? In this episode of the SHE RECOVERS Podcast, Nadia Bolz-Weber, an ordained Lutheran pastor, bestselling author, and long-term recovery advocate, shares her candid thoughts on grief, sexuality, and spirituality. Nadia’s irreverent wisdom and belief that we are all both sinners and saints provide a fresh perspective that challenges conventional beliefs.
If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your own sexuality or struggled with grief, Nadia’s story might just resonate with you. During the episode, Nadia opens up about her experiences with grief during the COVID-19 pandemic. She emphasizes that all types of grief are valid and should be honored without comparison or judgment.
Drawing parallels with the TV show The Leftovers, she paints a vivid picture of how collective loss can shape our lives and encourages listeners to find joy in the present moment, even amidst turmoil. The conversation takes a bold turn as Nadia discusses the harmful effects of traditional church teachings on sexuality, especially for women.
She recounts her own struggles with feeling prudish and disconnected during a sexless marriage and shares insights from her research on how church messages about sex and gender often lead to shame and guilt. Nadia offers a vision for a more integrated approach to spirituality and sexuality, where every part of oneself is celebrated. Nadia’s approach to spirituality is rooted in the belief that embracing our flaws and imperfections is liberating.
She encourages listeners to challenge their self-destructive narratives and practice curiosity instead of judgment. According to her, much of our suffering stems from the stories we tell ourselves rather than the actual situations we face. As the episode wraps up, Nadia talks about finding joy in unexpected places and staying present in difficult times. She urges listeners to be open to new experiences and question their preconceived notions of happiness.
Her excitement about speaking at the SHE RECOVERS conference in Miami adds a hopeful note to the conversation. Tune in to this episode for an eye-opening discussion that redefines recovery and wholeness. Whether you're navigating grief, exploring your sexuality, or seeking spiritual growth, Nadia Bolz-Weber’s insights offer a path toward embracing your whole self.