Nica Selvaggio: Healing Through Self-Love and Letting Go of Shame
Any addiction, eating disorder, substances, love sex, whatever, for me has been absolutely a symptom of the underlying thing, which is trauma.
What if your sense of worthiness hinged on being perfect? For Nica Selvaggio, this belief took root early in life after being adopted as a young child. Identifying as a non-binary queer individual, Nica's journey is a powerful testament to the impact of unconscious shame, rage, and grief. These emotions spiraled into a decade-long battle with an eating disorder.
Now a therapist in long-term recovery, Nica has built a life grounded in profound self-kindness and holistic practices that foster acceptance, safety, and self-love. In this heartfelt episode of the SHE RECOVERS Podcast, Nica shares how dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), a type of cognitive behavioral therapy, played a crucial role in their healing. DBT helps heal traumatized nervous systems, enabling individuals to stay present, regulate emotions, cope healthily with stress, and improve relationships.
Nica also opens up about how the death of their birth mother led to a sex addiction and eventually a deeper recovery. Listeners will find Nica's story both relatable and inspiring as it underscores the importance of community in the recovery process. The episode offers a candid look at how addiction often masks deeper traumas and how holistic methods can pave the way for genuine self-acceptance and healing.
If you're navigating your own path to recovery or supporting someone who is, this episode provides valuable insights and hope. Tune in to hear Nica's transformative journey and discover how embracing self-love can lead to profound healing.