When Helping Hurts: Andrea Seydel on Codependency and Self-Care
Find the courage of focus on you. Realize that you matter...
Have you ever felt like your efforts to help a loved one with addiction are taking a toll on you? In this eye-opening episode of 'The Buttrfly Effect', host Gail Ferguson Jones chats with Positive Psychology and Resilience Coach Andrea Seydel about the hidden dangers of misplaced loyalty. Andrea shares her personal experiences of initially missing the signs of addiction in a loved one—like mood swings, job loss, and dishonesty—and offers practical advice for those in similar situations.
Andrea's message is clear: it's crucial to detach from the problem and prioritize your own well-being. She encourages listeners to recognize their worth and turn up the volume on self-love. This episode dives into the Four C's: taking care of oneself, compassion, self-care, courage, and community. These principles are not just buzzwords; they're actionable strategies that can help you navigate the complex emotional landscape of loving someone with an addiction. Gail and Andrea also discuss the importance of community support.
Whether you're dealing with abuse, neglect, or just the everyday challenges of supporting someone with addiction, having a supportive network can make all the difference. Andrea's book, 'Loving You is Killing Me', provides further insights and strategies for those looking to reclaim their lives. This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling with codependency or feeling overwhelmed by a loved one's addiction. It's a reminder that you matter too, and that self-care isn't selfish—it's essential.