Eve Milford Answers Your Burning Questions on Sex and Relationships in Sobriety

So with the how do I coach on sex, so let's take, for example, if I am taking someone through conscious dating, one of the things, one of the practices, and again, an invitation, so none of this is forced, it's an invitation, but one of the beautiful things that is given as home play is to self-pleasure in terms of masturbation, in terms of feeling your pleasure, feeling your orgasm, if you orgasm, feeling bliss, feeling ecstasy, feeling your own true desire of what you would like to feel somebody else giving to you, maybe. And so part of that would be I would guide this person. That's not always the case because I understand that can feel very uncomfortable. And again, I'm going to say it, it is not the first thing that happens and occurs. This is down the line. So I would take them through this guided practice so they can embody it, they can feel what it will feel like when they're doing it and so they can turn up the volume on it when they're actually doing it. And that particular practice is all about pleasure before dating. So feeling your own pleasure and then what you do, which is just incredible, is you would do this before you go out on a date. You would feel your bliss, your ecstasy. And that doesn't mean to say that you go on the date to have sex with someone. This is to allow you to feel pleasure in your bones in your system in your nervous system it allows you to nourish yourself and to really start feeling into your sensuality so when you're on that date you know your sensuality you know what that feels like to be in pleasure so imagine having that energy of complete bliss and turn on of being out on a date and feeling sensual feeling flirty, feeling like a queen or a royal being. It's such a great way to go on a date, a great way to start it off.