Rebuilding Intimacy After Alcoholism: Sheri and Matt's Journey
Episode Overview
Intimacy requires active effort, not passive waiting. Emotional detachment often results from nervous system dysregulation. Prioritising oneself can be crucial for well-being in a troubled relationship. More sex isn't a solution to a dysfunctional relationship; mutual understanding is key. Open communication and regular check-ins are vital for rebuilding trust.
Intimacy is not something that just happens. You have to work at it, even if you're starting with just an emotional connection.
In this milestone episode of the Untoxicated Podcast, Sheri and Matt Salis tackle the crucial topic of intimacy in relationships affected by alcoholism. With humour and honesty, they share their personal journey of rebuilding trust and connection after the turmoil of addiction. The couple dives into the significance of intimacy work for relationship recovery, emphasising that waiting passively for trust to rebuild is a recipe for prolonged suffering.
They discuss their own experiences with detachment, resentment processing, and the importance of regular, open communication. Matt and Sheri's candid conversation highlights the complexities of intimacy, especially when one partner has struggled with alcoholism. They explore how emotional detachment often stems from nervous system dysregulation rather than conscious decisions. Sheri reflects on how prioritising herself and their children initially felt counterintuitive but was necessary for her own well-being.
The episode also touches on the misconceptions around intimacy, debunking the idea that more sex can fix a dysfunctional relationship. Instead, they advocate for a mutual understanding and respect for each other's needs and boundaries. Matt's humorous take on their differing sexual desires adds a light-hearted touch to the discussion, making it relatable and engaging.
Whether you're in a relationship with someone struggling with alcoholism or seeking to understand the impact of addiction on intimacy, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice. Don't miss out on Sheri and Matt's heartfelt and eye-opening conversation.