Understanding Covert Sexual Incest: A Deep Dive with Yitz Epstein
This is the responsibility of the parent to protect the child from their own issues and not bring them in. So ultimately there'll be, in addition, a lack of assertiveness.
Imagine being a child and feeling like you have to fill the emotional void left by your parent's dysfunctional relationship. This unsettling scenario is what Yitz Epstein explores in this episode of the 'Narcissism Recovery Podcast'. He unpacks the term 'covert sexual incest', coined by Dr. Kenneth Adams, to describe this inappropriate enmeshment between a parent and child. The child, often unknowingly, becomes a surrogate spouse, sacrificing their own youth to meet the emotional needs of their parent.
This dynamic can leave lasting scars, making it difficult for them to form healthy relationships later in life. Yitz explains how this type of abuse can lead to narcissistic tendencies in adulthood, where the affected individual may seek similar enmeshment and validation from their partners. The episode sheds light on the lack of assertiveness and boundaries that these children often struggle with, and emphasizes the crucial role of parents in safeguarding their children from such harmful dynamics.
If you or someone you know has experienced covert sexual incest or narcissistic abuse, Yitz offers guidance on recognizing the signs and beginning the healing process.