Understanding Control and Boundaries in Addiction Recovery
When you are holding to the boundary right and it makes you uncomfortable because you don't know what the result is going to be and you've held out so much hope that if you set this boundary down, they're going to behave in a particular way, and when they don't, oh, no, right, maybe I shouldn't have set this boundary down, maybe I should have done this...
Ever wondered how much control you really have when dealing with a loved one's addiction? In this episode of 'Coming Up for Air', hosts Dominique Simone-Levine, Laurie Macdougall, Annie Highwater, and Kayla Solomon tackle this tough question head-on. They discuss the delicate balance between setting boundaries and trying to control outcomes, offering a refreshing perspective on a topic that many find confusing.
The hosts emphasize that while you can't control another person's actions, you can create an environment that encourages positive change by setting clear, compassionate boundaries. Kayla Solomon shares a poignant thought: 'By setting down the boundary and protecting yourself, you actually do affect change in the other person'. This episode also dives into the parallel journeys that both those struggling with addiction and their loved ones undergo. Patience and compassion are highlighted as essential tools in this process.
You'll find practical advice on how to navigate these emotional waters, ensuring you take care of yourself while supporting your loved one. Whether you're new to this journey or have been on it for years, this episode offers valuable insights and strategies to help you move forward with empathy and understanding.