Counsellor A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari
BPD Idealization Phase Causes Fantasy Bonding
BPD Idealization Phase Causes Fantasy Bonding
BPD Idealization Phase Causes Fantasy Bonding
Monday 17th March 2025
Explore the highs and lows of BPD relationships with A.J. Mahari as she discusses idealization, devaluation, and the impact on codependent partners.
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Episode Overview
- BPD relationships often start with intense idealization.
- The idealization phase creates a fantasy bond.
- Partners with codependency issues feel validated initially.
- The devaluation phase leads to emotional turmoil.
- Therapy is crucial for healing from these relationships.
They weren't even seeing you while you were feeling so great.
A.J. Mahari, a seasoned counsellor and trauma recovery coach, dives into the complexities of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) relationships in this episode. She explores the idealization phase, where individuals with BPD create a fantasy bond with their partners. This phase can feel incredibly validating for those with codependency issues, as it boosts their self-esteem and sense of worth. However, Mahari explains that this intense idealization is often followed by a harsh devaluation phase, leaving the partner confused and hurt.
She highlights the rollercoaster nature of these relationships, where the initial euphoria is replaced by emotional turmoil and inconsistency. Mahari emphasizes that people with BPD often project their fears and insecurities onto their partners, leading to accusations and conflicts. She also discusses the deep-seated issues of codependency in those who find themselves in these relationships, urging them to seek therapy to heal and break free from the cycle.
With her empathetic approach, Mahari provides insights into the emotional struggles of both parties involved and offers guidance on how to move forward. This episode is a must-listen for anyone dealing with the aftermath of a BPD relationship breakup, providing valuable advice and support.