Counsellor A.J. Mahari

Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

A.J. Mahari

  • BPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles "Get-Away Closer" BPD Push/Pull

BPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles "Get-Away Closer" BPD Push/Pull

Friday 1st September 2023

A.J. Mahari explores the push-pull dynamics in BPD relationships, offering clarity on idealization and devaluation cycles.
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Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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The Push-Pull Dance: Understanding BPD Relationship Cycles

Episode Overview

  • BPD idealization is transient and doesn't reflect a genuine perception of the individual
  • Untreated individuals with BPD experience unconscious repetition compulsion cycles, influencing their approach-avoidance dynamics
  • A.J. Mahari's 30 years of expertise offers profound clarity on the complexities of BPD relationships
  • The podcast sheds light on the intricacies of healing from the aftermath of toxic relationships with individuals with BPD
  • Listeners gain a deeper understanding of the nuanced push-pull dynamics in BPD idealization and devaluation cycles
People with BPD do not at all see you. They do not at all hear you for who you really are.
Ever felt like you're on an emotional rollercoaster in a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? In this episode of 'Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups', A.J. Mahari, a seasoned Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach, dives deep into the push-pull dynamics of BPD relationships. Known as the 'get-away closer' phenomenon, these cycles of idealization and devaluation can leave you feeling lost and drained.
Mahari breaks down why these cycles happen, explaining the core relational issues like approach-avoidance conflict and the lack of object constancy in untreated BPD individuals. Her three decades of experience shine through as she offers clarity on these turbulent interactions, helping listeners understand the unconscious patterns at play. This episode is a must-listen for anyone trying to make sense of a chaotic relationship and seeking ways to heal from its emotional toll.