Counsellor A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari
Borderlines Just Aren't That Into You The Emptiness of Idealization
Borderlines Just Aren't That Into You The Emptiness of Idealization
Borderlines Just Aren't That Into You The Emptiness of Idealization
Tuesday 15th October 2024
Understand why BPD idealization isn't about you and start your healing journey with insights from A.J. Mahari.
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Healing Relationships
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
Navigating Challenges in Recovery
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Episode Overview
- BPD idealization is not about you but what you represent.
- Codependents often believe they can 'fix' or 'understand' more.
- Untreated BPD individuals don't see or value their partners as hoped.
- Focus on your own healing rather than changing your BPD partner.
- Understanding these dynamics can help you move forward.
They don't see you. They don't love you. They don't care about you.
Are you struggling to understand why your relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) fell apart? In this episode of 'Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups', A.J. Mahari, a seasoned Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach, breaks down the emptiness behind BPD idealization. She tackles the tough reality that BPD idealization isn't about you but about what you represent to the person with BPD.
Through her empathetic yet straightforward approach, Mahari explains why codependents often feel they can 'fix' or 'understand' more, only to realise it doesn't make a difference. Mahari uses a mix of personal anecdotes and broader insights to clarify how BPD relationships often leave codependents feeling devalued and discarded.
She shares stories from her own experiences and those of her clients, highlighting how the cycles of idealization and devaluation aren't personal but rather a reflection of the untreated BPD individual's internal struggles. You'll hear about the painful reality that people with untreated BPD don't see or value their partners in the way codependents hope.
This episode is a must-listen if you need clarity on why your efforts to 'do better' or 'give more' in a BPD relationship often go unnoticed. Mahari's candid style, mixed with her deep understanding of trauma recovery, offers a compassionate yet realistic view on moving forward. She encourages listeners to focus on their own healing rather than trying to change or understand their BPD partner's actions. Why should you tune in?
If you're tired of feeling like you're not enough in your relationship and want to start focusing on your own recovery, this episode provides the insights and encouragement you need. Mahari's expertise and compassionate delivery make complex psychological concepts accessible and relatable. It's time to understand that it's not about you and begin your journey to healing.