Yitz Epstein
Yitz Epstein
Being Nice vs Being Kind
Being Nice vs Being Kind
Being Nice vs Being Kind
Friday 17th January 2025
Explore the difference between being nice and being kind with Yitz Epstein. Learn how to set boundaries, respect yourself, and avoid exploitation.
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Episode Overview
- Being nice can lead to self-neglect and exploitation.
- Kindness involves setting healthy boundaries and respecting oneself.
- People-pleasing often stems from past trauma and abusive relationships.
- Transactional niceness is manipulative and often results in disappointment.
- Genuine kindness includes self-care and does not expect reciprocation.
Kindness towards oneself demands self-respect.
In this episode of the Narcissism Recovery Podcast, Yitz Epstein tackles the intriguing distinction between being nice and being kind. Yitz, a seasoned narcissistic abuse and relationship life coach, unpacks the complex dynamics that often trap people in the 'nice guy' or 'nice gal' syndrome. This syndrome is characterised by self-neglect and an overwhelming desire to please others at one's own expense.
Yitz explains how this behaviour pattern often stems from past trauma and abusive relationships, leading to a cycle of self-abandonment and exploitation by others. He discusses how being 'nice' can be transactional and manipulative, driven by the hope that others will reciprocate with kindness. However, this often results in disappointment and further emotional harm. On the flip side, Yitz highlights the importance of kindness, which involves setting healthy boundaries and respecting one's own needs.
Kindness, he argues, is about giving without expecting anything in return and includes self-care as a fundamental component. Yitz provides practical advice on how to transition from being 'nice' to being genuinely kind, emphasising the necessity of self-respect and assertiveness. He also touches on the challenges faced by victims of narcissistic abuse in breaking free from these destructive patterns and building healthier relationships.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling with people-pleasing tendencies or seeking to understand the deeper motivations behind their actions. Yitz's insights are both enlightening and empowering, offering a roadmap to healthier interactions and self-fulfilment. Don't miss out on this eye-opening discussion that could transform your approach to relationships and self-care.