Dr. Jelena Kecmanovic on Healing Grief with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
The foundation is really, you know, recognizing, having emotional intelligence and accepting those feelings so that you are not a hostage to those feelings that you can actually, you know, recognize them, allow them, accept them and end up behaving according to your values.
Grief is a universal experience, but finding ways to cope can be incredibly challenging. In this episode of 'Ruthless Compassion', Dr. Marcia Sirota welcomes Dr. Jelena Kecmanovic, a seasoned clinical psychologist and expert in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), to discuss how Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can help heal grief and loss. Dr. Kecmanovic, also known as Dr.
K., brings over 25 years of experience in therapy, research, and teaching to the conversation, offering practical advice and insights that are both compassionate and actionable. Dr. K. explains that ACT encourages individuals to accept their negative thoughts and emotions rather than suppressing them. By doing so, people can align their actions with their core values, leading to a more fulfilling life even amidst grief. This approach is particularly timely given the pandemic's impact on our collective mental health.
The conversation delves into how the pandemic has exacerbated feelings of grief and loss, creating what Dr. K. describes as 'complicated grief', where individuals struggle to move past their sorrow. Throughout the episode, Dr. K. emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence in the healing process. Recognizing and accepting one's emotions, she argues, is a crucial step towards building psychological resilience. This resilience is what enables individuals to bounce back from adversity and continue living a value-driven life.
Listeners will find Dr. K.'s tips on coping with grief especially useful. She shares strategies for recognizing and accepting negative emotions, staying true to personal values, and navigating the difficult journey of re-entry into normalcy post-pandemic. Her insights make it clear that there is no one-size-fits-all solution; instead, she encourages finding what works best for each individual.
If you're grappling with grief or looking for ways to support someone who is, this episode offers valuable perspectives and practical advice to help you through the healing process.