Shayden J. Bertagnolli MS LMFT Anxiety, Relationship, Addiction Specialist
Shayden J. Bertagnolli MS LMFT Anxiety, Relationship, Addiction Specialist
#79 The Reasons You Keep Shaming Yourself
#79 The Reasons You Keep Shaming Yourself
#79 The Reasons You Keep Shaming Yourself
Saturday 2nd April 2022
Therapist Shayden J. Bertagnolli explains why we shame ourselves, its benefits, and how to break the cycle in The Motyv Podcast.
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Shayden J. Bertagnolli MS LMFT Anxiety, Relationship, Addiction Specialist
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Get the buttons here!The Hidden Upside of Self-Shaming: Insights from Therapist Shayden J. Bertagnolli
Shaming, as negative as you know it is, has benefits. Are the benefits something to seek through shame? I'll let you decide.
Why do we shame ourselves, even when it hurts? In this thought-provoking episode of The Motyv Podcast, licensed therapist Shayden J. Bertagnolli dives deep into the perplexing world of self-shaming. While it may seem counterintuitive, Bertagnolli reveals that shaming oneself can have unexpected benefits. But are these benefits worth the emotional toll? That's for you to decide. Bertagnolli starts by acknowledging that no one willingly chooses to shame themselves.
Yet, he explains that our brains are wired to seek out familiar emotions, even if they're negative. This tendency often stems from childhood experiences where shame was a common response to various situations. Childhood trauma and early experiences of being shamed play a significant role in why many continue this pattern into adulthood. But it’s not just about the past. Bertagnolli also touches on how feelings of rejection and loneliness can drive people to self-shame.
The fear of rejection can be so overwhelming that some might find solace in shaming themselves as a preemptive strike against potential hurt from others. It's a way to control the narrative, even if it's damaging. Throughout the episode, Bertagnolli emphasizes the importance of approaching oneself with 'curious compassion'. This means looking at your actions and decisions with an open mind and understanding heart, rather than just focusing on the outcomes.
By doing so, you can break the cycle of shame and start healing. Bertagnolli doesn't just talk the talk; he shares personal anecdotes about how he's applied these principles in his own life. He encourages listeners to adopt a similar approach and suggests resources like Motyv Academy's Self-Worth/Mood & Anxiety program to aid in this journey.
If you're grappling with self-shame and its impact on your mental health, this episode offers a compassionate and insightful guide to understanding and overcoming these feelings. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on why we shame ourselves and how to move towards a healthier, more self-compassionate life.