Why Advice Often Misses the Mark: Embracing Self-Compassion with Michael Stoller
Advice is the worst thing we can give to people, because here's the thing. If we were giving true, good advice, that'd be fine. But here is all. Advice is when I give people advice. When you give people advice, we are never thinking what is best for them.
Ever feel like everyone’s advice just doesn’t fit your life? Michael Stoller gets it. In this episode of 'My Blueprint: Struggle Towards Emotional Sobriety', Michael dives into why advice can sometimes be more of a hindrance than a help. Sharing his own journey towards emotional sobriety, he talks about how reading has shaped his empathy and understanding. But it’s not all smooth sailing—Michael stresses the importance of taking action and embracing mistakes, even when they lead to stumbles.
Michael’s take on life often contrasts with those around him, and he emphasizes living in alignment with your own values, or as he puts it, the way God intends for you. He breaks down why generic advice often falls short, failing to consider the unique needs and circumstances of the person receiving it. Instead, he champions self-compassion and encourages listeners to be gentle with themselves.
To wrap things up, Michael presents his own twist on the concept of advice: 'Action Delivered versus Incentive Can't Expelled'. It’s a fresh perspective that urges us to think critically about the advice we receive and to prioritize our own paths to personal growth. If you’re on a journey towards emotional sobriety and looking for relatable, heartfelt insights, this episode is for you.