Lynn Matti
Lynn Matti
24. The Price of Nice: How Much is Too Much?
24. The Price of Nice: How Much is Too Much?
24. The Price of Nice: How Much is Too Much?
Friday 17th August 2018
Learn how being too nice can hurt you and find out how to break free from people-pleasing habits with Lynn Matti's advice.
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Get the buttons here!The Hidden Cost of Being Too Nice: When People-Pleasing Backfires
The first step out of this is to raise your awareness around your feelings. Mean and bitchiness and other words that are attributed to assertiveness need to be realigned in our vocabulary, accepting who I was and not the person who went to the extreme once I got so frustrated with burying all of my emotions.
Ever met someone who seems incredibly kind but is always on edge? In this episode of 'The Sober Therapist SoberSoul Recovery Podcast', Lynn Matti dives into the often overlooked dangers of being overly nice. She reveals how extreme people-pleasing can mask a boiling pot of internal conflict, rage, and resentment. It's a common struggle for those who find it impossible to say 'No' and crave approval from everyone—be it colleagues, family, friends, or even strangers.
Lynn sheds light on the crucial difference between being nice and being kind. While kindness stems from genuine compassion and empathy, niceness often comes from a place of seeking approval and avoiding conflict. This episode encourages listeners to reassess their vocabulary around assertiveness, challenging terms like 'mean' or 'bitchy' that are unfairly attributed to those who stand up for themselves. One of the key takeaways is the importance of recognizing and acknowledging your emotions, even the negative ones.
Burying these feelings can lead to long-term frustration and resentment. Lynn also underscores the benefits of assertiveness—expressing your needs and boundaries clearly and respectfully. This episode isn't just about identifying problems; it's about finding solutions. Lynn provides practical advice for breaking free from the cycle of people-pleasing and setting healthy boundaries. If you've ever felt trapped by your own niceness, this episode offers a lifeline.
Tune in to discover how you can reclaim your emotional well-being by learning to say 'No' and embracing true kindness.