Navigating Step 4: Understanding the Sex Inventory in AA
Whatever our ideal turns out to be, we must be willing to grow toward it.
Have you ever wondered how to approach the often daunting sex inventory in Step 4 of Alcoholics Anonymous? In this episode of Sober Cast, listeners are guided through this sensitive topic with a workshop recorded in Mankato, Minnesota, back in 2008. Hosted by two experienced members, the workshop offers a clear and straightforward breakdown of the sex conduct portion from the Big Book, sentence by sentence.
The hosts focus on the importance of relying on a higher power rather than human opinions, which can often swing to extremes when it comes to sex conduct. One host shares a personal story about how over-involvement in another member's sex life created tension and division, highlighting the pitfalls of becoming too judgmental. Another crucial point discussed is the unintended arousal of feelings in others and the broader implications of our actions.
The hosts make it clear that while AA doesn’t necessarily view having sex as harmful, it’s essential to consider the impact on others. Treating sex as any other problem, they emphasize the role of faith and personal growth within AA’s recovery framework. The episode wraps up with a powerful message: 'Whatever our ideal turns out to be, we must be willing to grow toward it'.
This episode is a valuable listen for anyone navigating the complexities of the sex inventory in their recovery journey.