I guess, if, like, I'm having trouble, like trouble in my, like my marriage, that was the defect you brought up. So when, and like I a while ago, I stopped having that belief in general- and it was probably out of anger- like, oh well, if this and this and this is going to happen in my life, then fuck you, right. So how did you get over that animosity and like, how can you guys empower women and and bring women together in recovery and realize that you guys aren't competing anymore and you're all on the same team and you don't have to like- I don't hate each other- call each other's eyes out by starting a meeting called empowering women, that I did that on purpose.