Why Narcissists Fight to Keep Control: Insights from Ross Rosenberg
For their pain to go away, they will do almost anything. Therefore, they have to blame, coerce, manipulate, do almost anything to get the Sld back, so they don't have to come to terms with who they are, what they did and the consequences of that.
Ever wondered why narcissists go to such extreme lengths to hold onto their partners? In this thought-provoking episode of The Self-Love Recovery Podcast, Ross Rosenberg dives deep into the psychological reasons behind this behavior. Drawing from his extensive experience as a psychotherapist and author, Ross explains how pathological narcissists react when their partners try to leave them. He introduces the concept of Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD), which stems from childhood trauma inflicted by narcissistic parents.
This trauma leads to core shame and pathological loneliness, driving individuals into unhealthy relationships to avoid withdrawal symptoms. Ross also discusses the severe attachment trauma experienced by narcissists, which makes them view themselves in a grandiose and entitled manner. When their partners set boundaries or try to leave, the narcissist's fear of facing their core shame triggers desperate attempts to maintain control. This episode is packed with valuable insights for anyone recovering from narcissistic abuse or struggling with codependency.
Ross's compassionate approach offers hope and practical advice for setting boundaries and reclaiming your life.