Overcoming Self-Doubt: Mandy Friedman's Fact List Strategy
The fact list will keep you rooted in fact and truth. It will keep you using the part of your brain which is rational and logical and it will help you solve that cognitive dissonance.
Ever find yourself questioning your own reality after an abusive relationship? Mandy Friedman, a seasoned counselor and trauma expert, offers a lifeline in this episode of SNAP: Survivors of Narcissistic & Abusive Personalities. Mandy dives into the concept of cognitive dissonance—a common struggle for abuse survivors where they doubt their experiences or the abusive actions of their partner. To tackle this head-on, she introduces the 'fact list', a powerful tool to help survivors stay anchored in truth and clarity.
By jotting down undeniable facts about their experiences, survivors can keep their minds focused on reality rather than getting lost in the fog of manipulation and self-doubt. Mandy gives practical examples of what could go on a fact list, from instances of physical harm to emotional manipulation. She also underscores the importance of keeping this list handy—whether in your pocket or on your phone—for those moments when doubt creeps in.
Alongside this, Mandy highlights the role of psychoeducation and grounding techniques in recovery, offering a holistic approach to healing. If you're navigating the choppy waters of post-abuse recovery, this episode is a must-listen for practical advice and emotional support.