I think the biggest thing for me is more about recognizing for me that my unhealthy feminine and my unhealthy masculine. I mean, let's just first start by saying the framework of which I've learned and I've kind of taken on as my tether is that there's a healthy masculine and unhealthy and there's a feminine and unhealthy. For me, recognizing that the unhealthy feminine and masculine comes from my ego, comes from my parts, and my healthy masculine and healthy feminine comes from myself ego comes from my parts and my healthy masculine healthy feminine comes from myself my soul my that beautiful part of me within me that just knows all the answers and knows everything and doesn't need to look at outside of itself for approval security control that that's the most important thing for me i think is is learning that and then the journey then becomes like really spectacular and interesting and curiosity.