Are You Helping or Controlling? Understanding the Fine Line
Episode Overview
Understand the fine line between helping and controlling. Learn practical tips for setting healthy boundaries. Discover self-soothing techniques to manage anxiety. Empower others by focusing on what you can control. Build stronger, more trusting relationships.
It's easy to go from helping to controlling because our desire to see things done well or protect those we care about can lead us to overstep boundaries
Ever felt like your good intentions might be a bit too much? In this episode of Encouragementology, professional life and recovery coach Kendell Boysen dives into the paradox of control. Have you ever tried to help someone only to realise you're actually holding them back? Kendell unpacks how our desire to see things done well or protect those we care about can lead us to overstep boundaries.
It's easy to blur the lines between being supportive and being controlling without even realising it. Kendell shares her personal journey of understanding the fine line between helping and controlling, and offers practical advice on how to empower rather than control those around us. Samantha Ann joins the discussion to help identify the difference between caring and controlling. Through relatable examples, she illustrates how genuine concern can morph into micromanagement, especially when driven by anxiety or a need for control.
Whether it's dictating your partner's schedule or constantly checking in on them, these behaviours can be detrimental to relationships. Haley McGee also shares her story on how she stopped trying to control her partner and took responsibility for her own happiness. She highlights the importance of self-soothing techniques and setting boundaries to maintain healthy relationships. By focusing on what you can control—your actions, reactions, and boundaries—you can foster a more supportive and less controlling environment.
If you've ever wondered where you stand on the helping vs. controlling spectrum, this episode is a must-listen. Kendell's insights and practical tips will help you navigate this slippery slope and build stronger, more trusting relationships. Tune in to find out how you can shift from controlling to empowering those around you.